Why do some people hide their depression?

I think that some depressed people may hide their depression for a few different reasons:

• There is a social stigma around depression that says that it is your fault if you have it. Society blames the person instead of the disease. Depressed people may be afraid that others will think of them as weak.
• They don’t want to be a burden to their family and friends.
• Hiding their depression may provide them with an escape from the inevitable therapy, long drawn-out talks with family members about their depression, and possible questioning over the authenticity of their problem.
• They plan on killing themselves and don’t want people to know. If a severely depressed person in therapy seems like they miraculously recovered overnight, be cautious because this is often when they are most likely to kill themselves.
• People with mental disorders sometimes believe that nobody will understand their problem, which is completely untrue. A large portion of therapists are people who used to have mental disorders and decided to help other people because of it.
• Keeping their depression to themselves is less painful that coming out about it.

Of course, there are probably other possibilities that I didn’t think of. I hope that in the future we can eliminate this stigma around depression. We need more people who are shameless about their problems, willing to talk openly about it to anyone. Being depressed doesn’t mean you are weak. And if there are a few people who think as much when you tell them that you are depressed, then those are people who you don’t want to associate yourself with.

I used to have OCD. I was ashamed of it and never even told my parents. I’ve since recovered from it, and now I’m completely open about my experience in the hopes to inspire others to not feel ashamed. In front of my Abnormal Psychology class of 400, I told them about the dark times I endured. To my surprise, nobody even seemed to make a big deal out of it; maybe they have had problems of their own.

source: quora (Jens Mowatt)

What is the most unattractive personality trait?

Any of the following…

• An unhappy face – Without a smile, always
• A know-it-all attitude – Unwilling to learn. never listens to anyone else and keeps projecting self as the smartest among the group
• Thanklessness – Taking help from people and bashing them later
• Arrogance of any kind – Be it related to money, knowledge, power or strength
• A complaining nature – Complaining, providing a solution for it and implementing, even if at a small scale, is admirable; but just complaining is pathetic. Sort of negative mindset which only looks at the faults in others and in their surroundings.

source:quora

Why is it called “Borderline Personality Disorder”?

In the early days of psychiatry, disorders were split into two categories, “neurosis” (including disorders we would now call anxiety and depression) and “psychosis” (including syndromes resembling schizophrenia and mania).  Patients that had characteristics of both groups were described as being “borderline”, as in they sat on the border demarcating the two categories.

From Wikipedia: “The first significant psychoanalytic work to use the term “borderline” was written by Adolf Stern in 1938. It described a group of patients suffering from what he thought to be a mild form of schizophrenia, on the borderline between neurosis and psychosis.”

There is a general trend away from this diagnostic label, as it does not tell people anything useful about their condition now that the dichotomy between neurosis and psychosis has been largely forgotten in the face of more detailed classification systems.  “Emotionally unstable personality disorder” is the ICD-10 name for the same condition.

 

What are some ways to fight with depression?

The first step is to at least be open to the idea that you did not WIN the brain chemistry lottery. 

It’s genetics.  Get over it. 

I didn’t win the blue-eyed genetic lottery either.  No amount of wishing or praying or reading or meditating will get me blue eyes.

You’ll likely need help. 

Have yourself evaluated, possibly starting with a psychologist first.  You’ll need help finding the edges of the where, the when,

It’s No Use Crying Over Spilt Blood

I am losing interest in life and am getting depressed. What are the top 3 things I can do right now to feel better instantly?

**Volunteering. You will see there are people in much worse situation, emotions will start going, you may start to care – that may help. And you will make a world a bit better place.

Start doing a combat sport. Its physically demanding, you will get all the benefits of exercising + you will get beaten up occasionally – pain will bring you back to the basics of life and realization how good it is not to be in pain.

Develop an expertise in something – being best in something – in the world, or in your community – will bring the self worth back, ability to help and to matter (and possibly make some money).

Find good friends – happiness is doubled, sorrow is halved. Also, good movies, songs, food and sleep helps.

It worked for me.

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1. Take a cold shower every morning for 2 weeks, before the city wakes up
2. Go for a 30 minute walk afterwards
3. Grab a coffee and pick up any good book （classics or self improvement）
4. Always challenge yourself and put small goals in front of you

TL,DR;Blood Types and Character Features of People

Type A: Calm, avoid confrontation, uncomfortable around people. Shy, sometimes withdrawn, seek harmony. Never really fit in.Very responsible, creative, sensitve, most artistic, conscientous.

Type B: Most practical of the blood types. Specialists. Very focused, less than co-operative.  Strongly individualistic. Pay more attention to thoughts rather than feelings. Can seem cold, serious. Well intentioned, impulsive.

Type O : Energetic, outgoing, social. Most flexible of the blood groups. Start things but give up rather easily. Flighty, undependable. Speak their mind. Very self confident. Value the opinion of others. Considered the ” best” group in Japan.

Type AB: Hard to categorize since they are a mixture of contradictory traits e.g shy and outgoing.Trustworthy, responsible. Can’t handle too much when under pressure. Interested in art and metaphysics. Considered the “worst” group in Japan. Most anime villains are type AB. ( LOL)

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Some Life Mottos

“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude” -Dale Carnegie

“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure” -Bill Cosby

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
-George Bernard Shaw

“When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger” Epictetus

Smart people doubt themselves. That is not stupid. Pretending they don’t doubt themselves, that is silly.

“Never memorize something that you can look up.”  – Albert Einstein

Quote of the Day

“The test of intelligence [is] not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do. Similarly, any situation, any activity, that puts before us real problems, that we have to solve for ourselves, problems for which there are no answers in any book, sharpens our intelligence.”

John Holt (1923-1985)